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Meiling’s Surprising Revelation (Age-Regression)

August 10, 2011

"Miracle Chair"Since childhood – Meiling (not her real name) an attractive 27-year-old Singaporean woman felt sad, angry and guilty, in particular in the presence of her mother. Both frequently argued over small things. She often changed jobs and could not maintain stable relationships with any men. She had been seeing several psychologists and a psychiatrist, who all diagnosed her as “clinical depressed”. Following their advice she swallowed the prescribed antidepressant – but her feelings didn’t change at all over the next half-year.

Then she came to see me and asked for help. During the first session of Hypnotherapy – which is the combination of counseling (Psychotherapy) and clinical Hypnosis – she began to regress. On my request she began to describe her environment. M: I’m swimming. Dr: Are you swimming in a pool – A lake or the sea? M: Neither of them – it is so dark here. The texture of the water feels so strange. I can’t see much;  oh to me floats a baby doll without hairs . And in front of me there is a small opening through  which  I can hear  my father  frantically arguing with my grandmother. Grandma is constantly shaking her head and my mother is screaming painfully loud.

After her reorientation into the here and now, I asked her what she makes of this trance experience. She hesitated for a moment and then answered:”I believe I just have relived my birth. The water, in which I was “swimming” was not pool or sea water – but amniotic fluid surrounding the fetus”.

In fact Meiling had experienced herself in her mother’s womb on the day of labor. And the screaming of the mother was cause by her painful contractions.  I further probed her: What about the baby doll floating next to you? M: Maybe it wasn’t a doll but a twin sibling. Dr: But if that’s so where is the sibling now?

And then it burst out of her: My parents always emphasized that they only can afford 2 children. I have an older brother already! Therefore 3 kids would be too much –Maybe my parents picked me over the other sibling and let him die. This also explains the hefty discussion between my father and my grandmother. Maybe my grandma wanted both children while my father only wanted a girl – me. And if this is so, then I know why I’m permanently depressed, angry and have feelings of guilt – because then I was the reason for the death of my twin sibling.

I calmed her down and suggested that she asks her mother what really happened.

And as I anticipated this was the outcome of the story: Her mother was extremely surprise being confronted with the question of a possible twin sibling. Meiling’s mother never had told anybody that she not only gave birth to Meiling but also to a twin who died some minutes later on that day.

Nowadays Meiling has a very good relationship with her parents.  She is happy to know that she was not chosen over her brother’s fate and thus not the reason for the death of her twin. Today she feels good about herself and has become a successful financial advisor. Last but not least she entered into a well-functioning relationship with a nice man.

M: Client Meiling

Dr:  Dr Auer